Welcome to How to Wedding: Advice from a photographer who has seen some stuff.
"However You Do It Is the Right Way"
When it comes to planning a wedding, there’s one thing I tell every couple: however you do it is the right way. You’ve probably been bombarded with advice from well-meaning relatives, Pinterest boards overflowing with ideas, and TikTok influencers who seem to know exactly what your wedding should look like. But let’s be real—your wedding is about you. And the only right way to do it is the way that feels authentic to your story.
Lesbian couple snuggling in the trees on their wedding day.
Personalization Is Key
Whether your vibe is “classic and elegant” or “backyard BBQ with a bounce house,” your wedding should reflect your personality as a couple. Love pizza? Skip the filet mignon and serve pies. Not a fan of cake? Go for donuts, ice cream sandwiches, or heck, even a giant cheese wheel. Want your dog to be the ring bearer? Do it. I promise, no one will ever complain about a cute dog in a bow tie.
Remember, you’re not planning this wedding for anyone else—not your grandma, not your nosy coworker, and definitely not for Instagram. The more personal your wedding is, the more memorable it’ll be—not just for you, but for your guests too.
Bride and groom lifted on chairs while dancing the hora. Notice the brides amazing floral dress instead of a traditional white wedding dress.
Throw Tradition Out the Window (If You Want To)
The great thing about weddings today is that there are no rules. Want to walk down the aisle to a Metallica song? Do it. Don’t feel like wearing white? Rock that colorful jumpsuit. Not into bouquet tosses, garter removals, or choreographed first dances? Skip them. Traditions are only meaningful if they’re meaningful to you.
Groom spraying Champagne while bride is ducking from the spray. They are both standing in a fountain with water spraying everywhere.
The Perfect Wedding Is the One That Feels Right
Let me say it again for the people in the back: however you do it is the right way. The goal isn’t to throw the “perfect” wedding. It’s to celebrate your love in a way that feels true to who you are as a couple. So, whether you’re writing your own vows, exchanging them silently, or communicating them via interpretive dance (hey, no judgment), just know that the best wedding is the one where you feel at home in your own celebration.
This was a Hallowedding and the bride wore an AWESOME black dress.