Welcome to HOW TO WEDDING: Advice from a photographer who has seen some stuff

When you’re choosing your wedding photographer, there’s one question that matters almost as much as “Do they take amazing photos?” It’s this: “Do I actually like this person?”

Here’s the thing: you’re going to spend more time with your photographer on your wedding day than almost anyone else. More than your parents. More than your wedding party. Possibly even more than your new spouse (because I’ll be there before your partner even sees you). If you don’t vibe with your photographer, it’s going to be one looooong, awkward day.

The Importance of Getting Along

Think about it. Your photographer will be with you during:

The chaos of getting ready.
The emotional ceremony.
The private, intimate moments when you sneak away for sunset portraits.
The wild dance floor party.

If you’re not comfortable with your photographer, it’s going to show in your photos. Stiff smiles, awkward poses, and the overall feeling that you’re just counting down the minutes until you’re free from the camera’s gaze.

The Engagement Shoot: Your Vibe Check

This is why I always recommend doing an engagement session with your photographer before the big day. It’s not just about getting cute photos for your Save the Dates—it’s your chance to do a “vibes check.”

During the engagement session, you’ll see how your photographer works, how they make you feel, and whether or not you click. It’s like a first date, but with less pressure and more posing.

If the engagement session feels weird, don’t be afraid to pump the brakes. It’s okay to look for someone else who’s a better fit. You want your wedding day to be fun, stress-free, and full of joy—not awkward, uncomfortable, and filled with forced smiles.

Finding the Right Fit

When you’re interviewing photographers, don’t just look at their work. Pay attention to how they make you feel. Are they someone you’d actually want to hang out with? Do they listen to your ideas and concerns? Do they make you laugh?

The best wedding photos come from moments where you’re relaxed, happy, and 100% yourself. And that only happens when you vibe with your photographer.

So, take your time. Find someone who gets you. Because when you’re comfortable, your photos will reflect it—and you’ll have memories you’ll treasure forever.